socialcontagion:

socialcontagion:

I thought I made a post about this before but apparently not, and correct me of I’m wrong, but no one has a “true” gender or gender identity because gender and gender identity don’t have an essence. Gender identity is a self-determined thing dependent on the rationalization of your life experiences up until your present point. Both your life experiences and rationalization of your experiences are able to change.

This means taking people’s gender identities seriously, even if they don’t make sense to you. This means believing someone when they say they occupy a certain gendered position. This means not interrogating people or making assumptions about their life experiences in order to determine what they “really” are. How someone personally identifies is something that should be self-determined, and no one knows someone’s life experiences better than their own damn self.

You’re not as against gender that you think you are if you try to force other people into gendered labels or categories they don’t want to be in.